Haters gonna hate

June 22, 2013

Haters.

Do you have a hater?

Do you have haters?

Or are you a hater? Do you eat a lot of peanut butter and jealous sandwiches?

If yes, then you came to the right place. Go on and continue reading.:)

People are entitled to their opinions and should be free to do so as long as they articulate their feelings with respect for others. But when people decide to share their opinions in a way that is meant to hurt another person’s feelings, that is when they become “haters”.

Here are some reasons why haters hate you:

Haters hate seeing you happy – Seeing you happy (happier than them) annoys them so much. They hate seeing you smile. They want you to be sad, miserable and all the other negative adjectives you could name. Haters hate seeing you happy in life because their job is to stay true to their motto: haters gonna hate.

Haters hate seeing you succeed – Haters would kill to see you fall. Being successful makes them realize that they’re failures. And it makes ‘em feel bad about themselves. As long as you’re working on improving yourself, they’re going to hate some more. Why? Cause haters gonna hate.

Haters want to bring you down – They want you to fail in life as much as they hate seeing you succeed. They want to make you feel that they are much better than you. They want you to realize that you’re just “nothing” “wala kang sinabi” “wala kang binatbat”. Because seeing you fall is the only thing that could make them feel good about them-pathetic-selves. Doesn’t matter what you do, haters gonna hate.

Haters are insecure – Maybe because you’re too awesome? Your awesomeness soaks them up. You do really really amazing things. You’re a beautiful being. You are talented. You are smart. You’re a good person. They are jealous because they want to be you. You have this personality they wished to have but (unfortunately) didn’t. And maybe this distinct personality of yours is admired by people. Haters hate seeing people like/love you. So they bring you down to bring themselves up. Because they want everything to be just about themselves.. So they hate, haters gonna hate.

Haters are threatened/intimidated by you – You are probably above average. What they see in you may be an uncomfortable reminder that you are above them. It’s not your fault you’re gifted. Haters will hate on you at any rate, haters gonna hate.

Haters have nothing better to do – Their lives are (obviously) boring and they have nothing better to do so they aim to bring you down. That just sums up a hater and their job as a hater. Really sad to think that they do such bad things just to make them happy and feel good about themselves. Oh well, haters gonna hate.

Haters are bitter about life – They want everyone around them to be bitter. Misery loves company. They may have just been unlucky and have experienced a lot more bad things than others and it makes them bitter about life. And they want you to feel the bitterness they been feeling as well through hating on you. Haters gonna hate!

Haters lives suck so much – You know your haters don’t like seeing you happy, they hate seeing you succeed, they have miserable lives with issues they can’t get over. Their lives have to suck that much if they’re going to take time out of their day to not only think about you but formulate schemes to try to achieve their hater goals. Haters gonna hate!

There! You can’t please anyone, you don’t even have to. Because at the end of the day, there’s always going to be someone to hate on you, someone who doesn’t like who you are or what you’re doing. The best way to deal with them is to just simply ignore them. Don’t fuel the fire. Don’t let them affect you. Because if they see you’re affected by their hatin, they won’t stop. It’s because they want to see you miserable, remember? Don’t be threatened by them. See them as motivators instead and let them motivate you to become a better person. Don’t let your haters bring you down.

They just need some attention.. and maybe a little love and acceptance. They are damaged and they don’t even know it yet. They hate because they want people to notice them. Because they want to be praised, so they’d feel better about themselves. But at some point it does not happen so they feel the need to bring others and their success down. They are jealous, hateful, and resentful. They cannot accept other people doing better than them, so they try to bring them down a notch.

Try not to stress/worry so much about things. Sometimes we can over think things and worry too much, then we forget to enjoy life. People think what they think, they will always have something to say about you. Don’t let it bother you too much.. don’t even let it bother you at all. Truth is; not everyone might like you, but the most important thing is finding the people that do.

If you’re a hater, you have issues. Work on it and stop hating. Love life and yourself as well. Embrace your flaws! Treat yourself with kindness and treat others the same way. :)

PS: If the reasons stated above aren’t the reasons why you think people hate you… then maybe you’re just annoying. You do really annoying stuff and it apparently annoys people. Lol it happens.

No copyright infringement intended. These are from Maine Mendoza’s blog and I am just re-posting this to reach those who would want to read it but cannot access her blog.